Soulmates and Twinflames

What are soulmates and twinflames?
You only have one twinflame, so that's why this soul is being called 'your other half'. In these times in which people are developing spiritually very fast, because of the high vibrations coming to the Earth, many people will meet their twinflam.

You have many soulmates, they come and go.

What is the difference between twinflames and soulmates?
You can meet many soulmates in life. This can be a family member, a friend, a colleague, but also a partner. For some people it's even a pet.

The connection with a soulmate is very strong, like it's going back centuries, and you recognize each other, as if you know each other for many many years.

If you meet a soulmate, you can get a lot of energy, and have the same interests. Almost always you are at the same (Soul) level. You can be your true self with your soulmate.

Soulmates are part of your Soul Group. This is the group of people/Souls, you are connected with, and that goes back many lifetimes. Some members of this group you will meet again in this lifetime, others you don't. Usually this is made up in the soulcontact you have with this soulmate.

Some soulmates you meet, and have a short relationship or friendship with, and others stay with you your whole life (think of very close friendships).

Characteristics Soulmates:
- You immediately feel comfortable around each other;
- You recognize each other, and talk for hours, but also be silent for hours, without it getting uncomfortable;
- There is a very strong connection;
- The bond of Unconditional Love is immediately present, and can be felt immensely;
- You want to be there for the other, always;
- You will do anything for your soulmate;
- You will learn each other valuable lessons (sometimes through very intense fights!);
- There are hot/cold issues, attracting and pulling away;
- You guide and support each other, in each others development;
- You don't judge each other;
- You accept each other completely, from your True Self and from Soul to Soul;
- You have a telepathic connection;
- You usually share the same interests;
- Even if you are opposite of each other (yin and yang), that's not a problem, and you keep each other balanced;
- You can be truthful to each other;
- You mirror each other and reflect back to one another;
- Projection;
- Your soulmate is unique, and he or she thinks you are as well, there is only one you!;
- You can feel each others pain and sadness, even at a distance;
- Your soulmate can't lie to you;
- Huge spiritual growth can take place, if your soulmate doesn't run away, and is able to confront his or her lifes lessons.

The relationship with a soulmate can be very difficult. If the person is resisting to change, this process is even ten times, if not 100 times harder with your twinflame!

Because your twinflame is your other half, the relationship is always very intense. You don't always have to have a romantic relationship with your twinflame, but it does happen a lot.

Characteristics Twinflames (they also include the characteristics of Soumates):

- Unconditonal Love;
- Love/Hate relationship;
- Hot/cold, attraction and pulling away;
- Fear to surrender to Unconditonal Love;
- Low self esteem (both or one of them);
- Usually the male runs away (suppressing emotions), but sometimes the female as well. Usually both of them have issues with running away at times;
- Old Souls;
- You love your twinflame so much, even more than yourself!;
- You are forced to work on loving yourself by your twinflame;
- The male- and female energies must be in balance and integrate;
- Usually you come across one or more soulmates in your life, before you will meet your twinflame;
- Your twinflame can look straight through you, and via the eyes, they can see our Soul, there is no escaping;
- There is such a deep connection, this inner fire, that sometimes the kundaline can be awakened;
- The desire for your twinflame never fades, even if the other one is resisting this love, their desires grows stronger by the day;
- It's the most difficult relationship on Earth, and if your twinflame runs away, which is also a character trait, it becomes very hard. Only when both Souls are at the same level it's possible, and even then there is a lot to be processed, because nobody if perfect or finished with their learning experience on Earth;
- Telepathic connection, much stronger than with your soulmate;
- Feelings each others pain, sadness and insecurities, like his or her feeling is yours;
- You feel desperate because of the strong attraction, and then pulling away, and can't understand why he or she is reacting this way;
- The twinflame that is resisting, usually says something completely different than what he feels. Body language is not matching his common sense. A sentence they always say is: "You deserve better than me!";
- Your twinflame will always cross your Path, usually when you least expect it, nobody can force this process;
- Nobody can make you so angry as you twinflame!;
- And nobody can hurt you as much, or cross boundaries more than anyone else ever in your life, you would never accept this from anyone else!;
- Unconsciously you will carry their karma, feel responsible for them, heal him or her, and take over certain blockages, and process this for them. What many people keep forgetting is the fact that NOBODY can release somebody elses karma;
- Many people think they 'have gone insane', because they don't recognize themselves in their behaviour towards their twinflame, it's a confusing time;
- It's also very lonely, because nobody understand these processes, unless they have been through them themselves;
- Despite the fact most claim that twinflames can never stay together, it is possible, as long as they are willing to work on themselves;
- Unconditonal Love heals, and releases blockages. The down side is that most twinflames are used to suppressing their emotions for a lifetime, and they are scared if it surfaces. Therefore they pull away, and are afraid of healing and change, they are afraid because it's new to them;
- You need to accept the fact that you cannot change your twinflame, you can't force them to change and grow!;
- The reason why everyone always wants to help their twinflame, is because of the fact that when your twinflame is in pain, you are as well, because he or she is your other half. And you always want what’s best for him/her;
- The feeling of missing your twinflame, will never fade. Sometimes it’s almost gone, to come back even more intense. Usually your twinflame is thinking of you at that time;
- Letting go of your twinflame is impossible, don't do any rituals to break the cords. Because eventually the bond between twinflames cannot be broken 100%. Don't be tempted by someone doing spells to break the bond etc, it can do a lot of damage to both of you,and disturb the natural twinflame process.

- What you can do to let go a little bit. And if you feel his or her energy, is to ground this energy, and protect yourself. Also state very clearly you will not 'take over his or her karma';
- You can always send positive energy to your twinflame, or burn a candle for strenght and love. But always from his or her Highest Good. If you ask Source, God or the Angels to change your twinflame, they will not help you. They can only help from Unconditional Love. Every human being has Free Will;
- Don't do any rituals to change your twinflame, or black magic. And don't let your twinflame be healed by someone at a distance, without his or her consent.

Healing is never allowed without a persons consent (1st rule in healing!), and after a healing a lot of emotions can surface, if the person doesn't know what's happening, it can be very intense, and even very dangerous.

If they wish to receive a healing, they must give their consent, and go look for a healer themselves. Otherwise you are going against their Free Will, and this will create bad karma for yourself.

Also, every twinflame needs to take responsibility for their own life. That is not up to you!

Important
An important thing to remember from soulmates and twinflames, is that you meet each other, so you can grow and develop together, and learn from each other.

But the most important thing is: Self Love. You will learn through your soulmate and twinflame that you are worthy of Love. Your heart will be opened again, but you will also get hurt more than ever before. You will learn how to deal with this, by cherishing your self worth, and setting boundaries. Knowing your own Worth is crucial here.

Know that your twinflame or soulmate cannot change or grow, if you don't change and grow yourself.

It always starts with you. And if you meet this person, it's because you are Ready for it, to grow and develop yourself even more.

People with low self esteem, and not self worth, cannot maintain the relationship with their twinflame or soulmate.

And the other group, that IS ready to work on themselves, will have to accept that the other person has Free Will, and if they are resisting, you need to move on with your life, as best you can.

Unconditional Love is ALSO letting go, and respecting each other. Let him or her decide upon their own development.

Those, who have learned to let go, will notice change immediately. Usually the twinflame comes back by themselves. It doesn't always work instantly, but that's because certain stages need to be completed.

It's also very important you live through your emotions, and don't suppress them. Just let them BE. Are you angry or sad, express yourself.

Always communicate openly to your twinflame, and don't always project everything onto him or her. This way, you will push him or her away.

But also know that your feeling is allowed to be there. So confront him or her in the right manner. Therefore they will also learn, that feelings can be expressed.

Something that most twinflames and soulmates, have suppressed even since their childhood (because of their sensitive, and old Soul).

© Medium Arlette
 

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Date: 19-10-'16

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